Have you ever wanted more from your marriage, but wondered if "more" was just a fairytale?
Are there places in your marriage where you’re playing it safe, where you’re holding back?
Are old wounds and fears still getting in your way?
Do you love your spouse, but their quirks are driving you nuts?
Do you want to bring spirituality into every aspect of your relationship,
and create a vibration so strong nothing can destroy it?
If so, then I may be the coach for you. After years of being a divorce attorney (yech), I followed my heart to do my passion (yay), which is helping couples fight for their marriages instead of against them. It's kinda funny, but who can divorce-proof a marriage better than a divorce lawyer? And considering the divorce rate today, "divorce-proof" is pretty good. But "good enough" should never be good enough when it comes to marriage. You know the saying - "You can't be too rich or too thin." We all have areas in our life where we don't want to settle, where we always want more. So why settle for "good enough" in the one area of your life that is the most important? Your marriage is where you live. It's your purpose, your teacher, your path, your spiritual practice. It's also a helluva lot of fun. It's light and laughter and good stuff, really good stuff. You get that when the space of your relationship, the space in the middle, is clean, clear and sacred, a place where soulmates can live and love. So this is how we do it...
Dream out loud. Most of us have a dream in our heads of what our ideal relationship looks like. But are you dreaming the same dream? First we create your shared vision statement. We dream out loud, we map it out, see where you align, where you differ, and how to deal with the differences with intention and love. You'll finally know where you're headed and how to get there together.
Release the old wounds, pain and fear that gets in the own way of being in the present and living your shared vision. “Divorce your baggage” and reclaim your personal power.
Emotional Algebra. Experience plus thoughts = emotion which creates reaction or response. Even if you were never good at math, you will master this simple “equation” to emotional mastery. Learning to choose your thoughts and emotions will give you responses (instead of reactions), which will work for your relationship instead of against it. You will be able to transform your relationships with people and with life.
Acceptance. Radical Acceptance. Shaming and blaming your spouse for being who he or she is (the person you fell in love with, by the way) is a real buzz kill. Giving your spouse (and yourself) the gift of Radical Acceptance leads to loving compassion and healing, and is, ironically, the only place from which you can make authentic and empowered choices. Trust me, there is magic here.
Making love. Always. In all ways. What will your marriage look like when you are making love with every action, word, and thought? What will your marriage look when it stops being an endles power struggle and becomes the place where where both of you can continuously grow and unfold yourselves to each other over the course of a lifetime?
Here's how I roll as a coach -I don't just ask questions and take notes. I combine guided meditations and spiritual ideas with grounded and useful practical tools - stuff that works. My clients are eager to learn and engage, and they enjoy doing a little "homework". If you like to write, you can journal with me and I can coach you in between sessions - where life happens.
We are going to do this with a sense of humor. I hate being bored - don't you? Did you know that play activates different parts of your brain for learning and problem solving? Clients who love to work with me, understand that this process is not supposed to be painful and exhausting. Expect the unexpected. C'mon folks, this is your love life - not root canal.